Why is listening more important than speaking ?

Arjun says Krishna I won’t fight, My family is there in the battlefield. I am in a dilemma .you want me to fight .I am sorry I cannot fight, please try to understand. So Arjun says do whatever you want to do, say whatever you want to say I won’t be able to fight. But the beautiful thing is that Krishna did not speak even one shloka in the entire first chapter.(Arjun Was not in learning mode, ). Krishna wants Arjun to vomit out everything that is there in his mind and he gets ready to listen. But the challenge is that it was not a very comfortable atmosphere .Arrows were being continuously shot in the but still Krishna kept quiet and didn’t said a word. Because he is a superb, fantastic listener. Because he knew that the moment he starts speaking in between where Arjun is speaking something else and Krishna is speaking something else. Both of us will get disconnected and it will worsen the situation

The principle here is: SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND AND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD”.

During an interaction wait listen you may be knowing the solution. But don’t give the solution in between. You know the solution already but still keep listening, develop faith and connect. And when given the opportunity then speak.

At one point Arjun says: “I have understood one thing that I have not understood anything. Whatever is beneficial for me, please tell me. Now I completely surrender to you”

And the moment surrender comes Krishna takes the mic. But when Arjun was speaking Krishna did not speak anything in between.

What’s the learning?

BE A GOOD LISTENER

LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND not to reply ! Most often people tend to argue because they are not understanding what they are hearing but they are just preparing arguments to reply . l

Out of 18 chapters first chapter was leaded by Arjun. Because of which they got connected. Now conveying and convincing becomes very easy. But when we don’t connect even if you convey a lot the other person is not a little bit convinced.

The salesman who is not connected to his client cannot convince his client.The husband who is not connected to wife is not at all convinced at the most genuine arguments of his wife.The parents who are not connected to their children cannot expect their children to do what they ask them to do.

You need to listen to get connected.